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dealing with the death of a Loved one is one of The Most difficult Things we have to go through in life. Now, Corona-Virus, it is even more difficult for people to Say Goodbye .

The harsh reality is that in order to keep everyone safe from The Virus that is very sick and her family is not around can around you die. Funerals can be carried out as planned. And people can't grieve.

But there are still ways to celebrate and to mourn those we love and Say Goodbye in a meaningful way.

'The hard thing was, you not'

Dr. Nick Schindler, a paediatrician at the Norfolk and Norwich University Hospital , knew that if His 99-year-old grandfather John Cohen went to The Hospital last week with a chest infection, it was unlikely that he would come Back Home .

"Usually go one of us with him," He Said . "We would have to discuss Things and handed them to The Family . But we were not able to do that, so we had to do it from a distance. "

He Said staff in London's Royal Free Hospital were "absolutely wonderful" but to speak only "limited time" on The Phone .

Dr. Nick Schindler with His grandfather, John Cohen

It was decided that a person could be visiting The Hospital if they wore personal protective equipment (PPE), including a mask - isolated And Then 14 days later. Dr. Schindler, the aunt, the youngest of the three siblings, went.

"At this point we knew it was a funeral. And so She did that, don't know that you will be you will then be able to visit it. "

Dr. Schindler, 32, said that by The Time the father died, His great-none of The Family felt there was Something left unsaid, but "the really hard thing is you don't go out Together ".

On The Day of The Funeral , he was isolated At Home , as His two-year-old son Ben had a fever. Not able to watch there be In Person , via live Stream The Funeral on Zoom, with a total of 12 members from three different countries.

His Mother , father and sister were the only ones who took part - His sister remain two meters separated from their Parents .

Mr Cohen, with His Family

After The Funeral , the members of The Family , the Zoom had a meeting, raise A Toast and sharing stories. The Family Invited People to shiva to sit with them in the Jewish tradition, the events from afar.

Dr. Schindler admits, "it just seems really quiet", but he consoles himself, therefore, of His conviction that His grandfather is now reunited with His wife, who died 10 Years ago.

"He must be to be so happy to spend time with her," he says. "I don't think any of us felt that we regret, to die to him. We felt like we'd kept him for so Long . "

What is the Public Health England means to say, to funerals?

Lianna Champ, the undertaker and civil funeral celebrant with over 40 Years of experience, said She found the current situation is heartbreaking.

"It's terrible to see that families don't sit six feet apart, to be able to reach each other," She Said . "And can you imagine how terrible it is, who participates in a funeral?

"sleep deficiency has been of funerals in Something we don't recognize. People have rituals that you expect them to take place, when someone dies, including physically.

"The trauma of the coronavirus has changed how We Live and die, and it has changed, and funerals. "

Ms-Champ, who also said an author and Grief specialist, it would be to have children, a clear government Directive to say, cremation or burial had to currently take place, without friends or relatives is available.

"people are less aware of hygiene when you're grieving - Things like touching, tables and chairs, or blow your nose. We need to Be Careful when it affected the health of the bereaved, The Funeral staff, and cemetery or crematorium staff. "

Lianna Champ, leads a funeral procession

She urged them to focus on the people "to The Life that was lived" and not "get stuck on the way of death or The Funeral ."

If it takes place not at a funeral you attend says that people can light a candle in front of a photo of the Loved one at the same time. "It helps to create an emotional connection. Or it could be the establishment of a memorial altar for you and offer up thoughts or prayers.

"Talk is as important as the good feelings to share with someone. And you don't allow fear, silence, or Tears . "

'love knowledge, we love you'

Andy Langford, clinical Director, says he would encourage you to remain grieving in contact with each other by Phone or online and support those who grieve.

Sue Gill says can be memorials in The Future

planned"It is not to necessarily say The Right words, because it is not always The Right words. But you can be there for them and tell them what you think of them. It can feel pretty lonely at the Moment, but if you have been bereaved it even more. "

Sue Gill, a 26-year volunteer at Cruse, you help support children in Grief - Something , instead of what you are doing now, by talking to their Parents or caregivers over The Phone .

"I think these last moments with someone really, really important," She Said . "That's when we get the chance to Say Goodbye and to say, we all love you. And you were Taken Away from them.

"But our love know that we love you. Perhaps we can say that it is enough, but the knowledge is inside everyone. "

She says memorial events can always in The Future . "It is a much better way to Say Goodbye and with everyone coming Together ," She says.

"This is Something to schedule, as part of the grieving process, to say, to be able to goodbye to be Together - and have a Cup of tea and a bun, and laugh at the memories. "

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Source of news: bbc.com