Gail Vella

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For many of us, away from The Family home is a rite of passage, with the idea of cutting the skirt attractive.

But it is not for everyone. To explain to these people how it is To Live Next Door to mom and dad.

"help you, our pet turtle' Gail Randall shares a driveway with your parents

Gail Randall and her partner moved into The House Next Door to her parents, Ken and Janet three years ago.

"The House was in joint ownership, so that the affordability of it was good, but I also want To Live close To My parents," she says.

Gail s in front of the door is less than 10 ft (3 m) away from your mom and dad and it is a common driveway, the connection of the houses in Plymouth. If you saw for the first time, in the purchase of The House , Gail says that "a lot of things" went through her head, but all doubts were quickly forgotten.

"you don't have to ask where we are and when we are gone, take care of The House ," she says.

Gail and her partner, the love of Lisa from Next Door to Ken and Janet

"The only reason we'd move us if we decided to have a larger family. My partner already has A Son , but if we were to More Than one other child, would we get a bigger House . We have jokes about it, when we have children, we were able to knock down the houses, so that you can come and go as you please! But we had never move, because of my parents. "

Apart from the search for it "To Live comforting", where she grew up, there is a further advantage that some of the familiar faces from Next Door .

"help you, our garden and take care of our pet turtle," she says. "We don't have the grass, so she goes door to door with mom and dad to theirs to eat!"

"I would recommend it to anyone who is' Wendy Lewis with her mom and uncle pulled up soon after, in the next to their parents in August, 1966

In 1965, The House was next to Wendy Lewis ' parents, for Sale - Something they saw as a "perfect opportunity".

"My Mother had just thought in my disabled uncle and I that you really need a hand to see to him," Wendy says.

Although The House in char mouth Road, St Albans , Hertfordshire, requires renovation, Wendy and her husband, Jim thought, it was worth it to be, "because it was very cheap for this road". House price aside, Wendy's husband was also the move "absolutely happy" to be in the Next Door to his in-laws.

A gate between the Two houses meant Wendy's were telling the children to visit their grandparents, just

"at that time he was doing a lot of extra work for My Father , ran his own business - design work," Wendy. "He spent a lot of time at my parents' House , the drawing in the evening, so was Next Door absolutely ideal. We never had any problems. "

it was Next Door to her parents, Wendy's Two Children , Katy and Steve is particularly advantageous. "You were very fond of your nan and grandad," Wendy. "They spent so much time with you, you were always there.

"My Daughter , Katy, when I used to tell her about Something , she would say, 'I'm going to see Nan!" and off she would go. It was very sure to do that for you, so that, when she was four or five years old, as it was a small gate between The House of the Two shipyards. We never had major problems whatsoever, Everything was in the advantage. "

"It was so nice to be right Next Door ,"

The life-forms were also conducive to Wendy's parents. "They wanted us to move," Wendy says, "especially with the problems of my mom at this time My Uncle had.

"It was so beautiful, right next to the door - I would recommend it to anyone, absolutely. "

Animal instinct: we Go back to The Nest ", When The Chips are down, will you go to your parents"

"I think the psychological nesting concept is really strong, we go back to Something you feel is safe from their past," says Cary Cooper, professor of psychology and health at Manchester Business School, the University of Manchester. "If you look at The Animal world, they group together like a protective. "

There are "obvious reasons" for people who live Next Door to their parents, he says, also Babysitting in the vicinity, and for the support in difficult times. He points out, there is now "no network" as it was a few decades ago, when cousins and other relatives often lived in the same community.

"That's over now. We do not have The Social support systems, and most of us are now isolated. We are not close to our extended family, we know some of our neighbors, but not many, and this is the company that in the course of The Last 30 years. Psychologically, because of the pressure on the people of today, would you think we want to be closer to Our Family , but there is a stigma associated with the statement 'I am moved to be near my parents.

"the people you will ask, why they do it, whether you can cope with and the fact that you're no longer a child. But when times go bad, who do you turn to? When The Chips are down, will you go to your parents. I don't think that's unhealthy, I think it's pretty healthy. You need that social support. "

"Originally, I was not on Board,'

a man and a woman, Inderjit and Parminder Samra, from Smethwick in the West Midlands , were Next Door to Inderjit parents for five years.

For you, though, that a lot of is further away than you - after they had lived previously with Inderjit's parents to their six-room House along with his brother, sister-in-law and nephew.

"it was Our plan to move, because we knew once we started a family of Our Own , there was enough space for all of us under one roof," Inderjit says. "But nothing really came in the area we were looking - we did not know how the houses. The House Next Door To My parents just happened to come up.

"Originally, we were not keen on the idea because we wanted to move to a different area, but we looked at The House , and the more we looked at it, the more it began to grow on us. The fact it was said in addition to The Family , if we needed, Babysitting service, we would not have to drop out to travel the children. We knew that mom and dad would be Next Door . "

However, for Inderjit's wife, Parminder get used to it took a little time to the idea. "First of all, I'm on Board, I'll be honest," she says. "As much as we come as a family, we wanted to leave and start Our Own lives. As we were searching for properties, though, it just didn't work. "

The House Next Door to Inderjit parents had lived an identical layout, with the you with them. "I think said at the time that we had for the children - only one, but then have now had Two of Everything familiar," Parminder. "So in the end I just thought, biting my tongue and give him a go. If we didn't like it, we could think about another option.

"If you asked me five years ago, I was absolutely against it, but now I would not see again. My Mother -in-law does a lot for us. My mom lives in Nottingham, so for me, she is a mom all the time. "

Inderjit says that your current life is the form of "all positive". "Both of us half-heartedly went into it," he says. "It was a case of, let's just move you and let's see how it goes, as the worst case was scenario is that we sell The House - at least, I would like it to go.

"Well, we wouldn't consider in a different area. "

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Source of news: bbc.com