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The hard-fought debate over U.S. abortion focuses on the rights of The Mother and fetus. But a lawsuit in Alabama, which says of A Man who says his girlfriend had an abortion against his will adds a third voice in The Conversation , James Jeffrey.

After the anger is gone, after overcoming alcoholism as a coping mechanism, even after a new and beautiful family comes on The Scene , a great sadness, there is still - and probably always will be.

this is The Message of the People talk about their experiences with abortion, a voice rarely heard to the passionate crowds in the US, The Abortion debate, even if The Right to abortion proponents argue That this group is an outlier and does not speak for the majority of The Men in a termination of pregnancy. Currently, the usual male perspectives, which are the function of the legislature to push for abortion limit process, drawing the IRE of pro-Choice supporters accused them of trying to legislate women's bodies. But now would-be fathers denied abortion talk.

An Alabama abortion clinic is being sued by A Man after his girlfriend had a miscarriage, in the case of the six-week Phase, against his will in the year 2017. The case is The First of its kind, because the court recognized the fetus as the plaintiff and The Father , as the representative of his baby ' s estate. "I'm here for The Men That really want to have your babies," The Man told a local news Agency in February. "I was just trying to talk to ask and plead with her and only with her, and see what I could do. But in the end, there was nothing I could do to change her mind. "

Currently, in the United States , the fathers have prevent no rights to, you are the termination of a pregnancy for which responsible. State laws require That a Father be given to say, or even notified of an abortion have been struck by the U.S. Supreme Court.

"I was in my 30s, The Good single life-life in Dallas," says the 65-year-old Karl-locker. If a woman he saw told him she was pregnant, he says, he felt "like one of those wolves with his leg caught in a trap".

Nevertheless, he decided That he had to support you and the pregnancy. "I've tried everything, I offered to marry you, to take The Baby with me, or offer it for adoption," Mr loose said, explaining That he felt would keep The Child to do The Right thing. "You said you could never give your child up for adoption give freely - it is not in the cognitive sense. "

Other Voices in The Abortion debateIn the end, he drove The Woman to The Clinic and paid for The Abortion . After That , he says, he moved to California, as he could not bear the knowledge of what he had done.

"I don't know how I survive; I had not to jump in front of a bridge, but I probably would have drank myself to death," says Mr. Locker, who believes That the saved connection with his faith and starting A Family with Another Woman for him. "I've been thinking about what happened Every Day for The Last 32 years. "

in General, men are involved, the traumatized in an abortion in one of four ways, all of which can leave men when they come to reflect, then their roles, to say the ongoing consultation groups for post-abortive men. Sometimes men force a woman to have an abortion against their will; others say they support The Woman 's decision one way or The Other , while steering That the decision against abortion. Some Men see abortion for the First Time after the fact, or The Abortion Goes Ahead against their will.

What polling shows, however, fewer studies have been conducted on men reactions occurred. What data there is for men coming out of the post-abortive support groups, which is dependent on man from looking for you, so as to make it difficult, all broad statistical observations. But the accounts are similarities, such as feelings of anger, guilt, shame and deep sadness on anniversaries.

"men are meant to be protectors, so there is a sense of Failure - not to protect failed, The Mother and The Unborn child to be responsible for it," says the 61-year-old Chuck Raymond, whose 18-year-old girlfriend had an abortion in the late ' 70s, when he was a teenager. "It's incredible guilt and shame about it That you did. "

Chuck Raymond and his then-wife Linda in 1976. They are still married, Mr Raymond says That he thought a child would have disrupted the educational plans and his military training at the West Point Military Academy , where the students are not allowed to be married or to raise children. "Once I was in training, I got into everything, and suppressed the case, keep it out of my consciousness. Years later, however, it became clear to me That a tragedy had taken place, and we made a tragic Choice . "

He compares the mental and emotional anguish which may follow an abortion to battlefield post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

abortion in the US - how are we hereThe us Supreme Court's landmark Roe v Wade decision, issued on 22. January, 1973, is the most famous case of abortion, for the legal, the procedure legalized in the United States . But two later cases, had more influence on The Men , says Allen Parker, President of The justice Foundation, a conservative law Center " in Texas.

After the year in 1976, the Supreme court's decision in Planned Parenthood v Danforth, The Father 's consent to an abortion was no longer required. In its 1992 Planned Parenthood v Casey decision, the court went even further, saying, the fathers are not entitled, a notification of an abortion.

"There are so many contradictions to all of this - it is an abortion, The First , and be damned, if otherwise," says The Reverend Stephen Imbarrato is a Catholic priest and anti-abortion activist. Before entering the priesthood, Father Imbarrato his girlfriend got pregnant in 1975 and steered it in the direction of abortion, to find out, decades later, the worn had twins. "Men regret lost fatherhood, how men are, by nature, from the fathers' occupations. "

Father Stephen Imbarrato campaigns outside of the Supreme Court, But others argue That The Number of men who are traumatized by abortions outliers.

Gillian Frank, a historian of sexuality at the University of Virginia, says That the 1992 Planned Parenthood v Casey-determined decision, That "in most contexts, in which there is a stable and loving relationship, men and women together". "And when The Men are absent from the decisions, often it is because there is a risk of violence or coercion in The Relationship . These decisions [of the courts] was not based on the fact it is a child, The Situation is not analogous to the custody of children. "

There is disagreement about the ratio of women who have abortions, without men, or in spite of them or because of them. According to the Guttmacher Institute , a research and policy organization, the analysis of abortion in the United States , half of the women, the abortions in the year 2014, said they do not want to be a Single Parent or were having problems with their husband or partner.

"It was recognized, time and again, when People say they are arguing for men to hear voices, it is actually to regulate more about the control of women to make their decisions," Mr Frank says. "And I don't see it as men have been missing have, quite to the contrary, men have always been vocal about the ability of women to control their reproductive destiny. "

Before Roe v Wade, he noticed, took the form of women to go before a panel of usually male doctors to plead their cases for an abortion, and it continues today with "The Men -controlling pharmaceuticals and The Men to meet behind the desks, decisions."

"Outside of our hospitals, it is usually men, the protests, and climbed on top of cars, screaming, over the fence with a building," says Sarah wheat, who works for Planned Parenthood in Austin, the Texas capital and an important place on the Texas legislation on abortion. Planned Parenthood is an organization That provides sexual health services, of which about 6% includes abortion, Ms wheat said.

"It is designed in the normally loud and intimidating, to stigmatize, shame, and intimidate. And if we go to The Capitol , it feels very similar with the legislature. From our point of view it feels men still over-represented. "

in fact, much of the pushback against men, and involvement in abortion is low in the historical context of a Patriarchy to tell women what to do.

"It's a separation says," Mr. Locker. "The Men have a responsibility - as they should - so their wages get docked with child support if a baby is born, but at the same time, you have no rights to have an abortion to go ahead. "

"People don't see it, you hold men," says Theo Purington, 34, his pregnant girlfriend got an abortion in the year 2006, against his will, leaving him "depressed and a mess." The Experience led to his becoming increasingly involved in the pro-life advocacy and counseling post-abortive men enduring similar struggles.

Theo Purington and his seven-year-old daughter Sienna

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