Big Stage

Losing a loved one can be one of the hardest things to experience, and dealing with the subsequent grief is often a long and difficult process.

During his headline set at Coachella in California, Frank Ocean addressed the death of his Younger Brother Ryan and talked about one of his " fondest memories".

" My Brother and I came to this festival a lot, I felt like I was dragged Out Here half The Time because I hated the dust, " he told The Audience .

Ryan Breaux lost his life in a car crash aged 18 back in 2020.

" I know he would've been so excited to be here with all of us, " Frank Ocean said.

Like The Singer , 25-year-old Simran Rullen lost her Big Brother Pav in a car accident two years ago.

She has praised Frank Ocean for speaking openly, saying it will help raise awareness of how death can " affect siblings as well".

" Mostly people think it's [just] the parents that get affected, " Simran, who lives in Leicester, tells BBC Newsbeat.

" But the siblings are in the same amount of pain, because they grew up together and and have so many memories together.

" He was there for me since Day One . And after losing him I didn't know what to do with My Life because he guided me. "

Maisie, from London, was seven when she lost her 21-year-old sister Holly in a Natural Disaster .

The 25-year-old agrees with Simran and says losing a sibling feels different.

" It's like losing a friend. You expect to outlive your parents, you know that One Day , you won't have them there.

" To talk about these emotions, it makes people feel less alone. It is a hard thing to talk about.

" And it's a hard thing for people to go through, but it is relevant in a lot of people's lives. "

On her own grief, there are " good days and bad days" for Maisie.

And she thinks Frank Ocean sharing his grief on such a Big Stage takes bravery.

" There are going to be people in that audience that can resonate with his words and can feel and share his loss.

" So it makes it a less lonely place when you do talk about these things. "

Luke Stephenson's sister was Megan was 29 when she died following an operation after a Heart Attack in March 2020.

He says it was difficult because it was the start of the Covid pandemic which meant you couldn't see people.

" I had to deal with My Own grief but I had to support my mum, " he says.

" When you lose someone there is obviously all the awful admin tasks to do, I instantly went into a survival mode and focused on doing All That .

" I had to change my car because I had self-diagnosed PTSD every Time I got in my car, it reminded me of That Night of driving to hospital to be told she was dead. "

Luke, 34, says he's had counselling and him and his mum talk about Megan " all The Time ".

" It's still Megan's bedroom in The House , we laugh about her.

" One of the things I think all The Time is 'I'd love to be able to tell Megan that' so that's really difficult because I remember I can't.

" I surprised myself with how resilient I was. You can't prepare for it or plan for it but Looking Back and reflecting, I've got through it. "

Megan Grace runs an Instagram account called SiblingLoss and she says those who experience Sibling Loss can be seen as " The Forgotten mourners".

" What I enjoy doing is putting out My Own thoughts, but I also share Other People 's stories as well, " she says.

" Being able to see Other People in my comments and in the community, connecting with each other And Then forging relationships online has been really healing. "

She feels there is a lot of pressure for Young People to " be there" for others, which shouldn't be the case and instead people should be more careful with their words.

Simran also thinks it's important to " find Other People that are going through the same thing as you".

" It makes you feel lighter being able to share your story with someone, " she says.

" It really helped me understand my emotions, understand what I was feeling and why I was feeling them. "

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Source of news: bbc.com