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The authors, Dr. nerd love, Savage Love , sense and sensibility, The Moneyist, ask a Manager, and ¡Hola Papi! are here to help,

The Corona-Virus outbreak has changed The Way we all live and Work - and, as a result, it is a totally new and unprecedented, problems.

What if You Can 't stand your partner, You 're Now in lockdown and Can no longer ignore their annoying traits? Or worse - what if You broke just before The Order to stay At Home , and are Now stuck awkwardly under the same roof?

If You are lucky enough to from home as You go with difficult Children , or a boss, micromanage Like You from a distance?

What if You do not have to go to to - and your boss is not wearing a mask?

What if your parents driving You crazy?

Or what if You feel really lonely?

for decades, advice columnist - or "agony aunts" - anonymous the go-to place for People to ask for advice. Now , The Crisis means that some of the columnists, more and more requests - and the Issues more serious and urgent to be.

"The outbreak has dramatically changed the nature of the mail I get changed," says Alison Green , who runs the popular ask A Manager Column . "About 90% of them are Now in connection with the outbreak. "

Harriette Cole , who says the syndicated Column , sense and sensibility, writes: "there is no relationship of today, not been affected in any way".

she had enough Issues to deal with over-friendly neighbors, the non-social distance, to stay In Touch with old parents, who do not know How To use Smartphones, with your child, after You realize all your friends are gone to a second home.

Honestly, this is a time we all could use some advice and support - so we spoke to some of the favourite agony aunts and uncles to find out what the problems are, interferes with your readers The Most and what tips do You have.

'What if my workplace is safe?'

Ms Green says that before the outbreak, Most of your readers questions about unpleasant interactions were.

"There was a lot of inter-personal things - such as" my colleague is really annoying "or" I'm allergic to My Boss ' perfume'. I have almost none of these questions Now , Because the stuff doesn't go Away , if You are physically at Work with People , and the People , the priorities are different Now . "

Instead, their readers are very concerned about the Security of jobs and.

It is a similar situation for Quentin Fottrell, who runs The Moneyist, a Column about the financing of the media site Marketwatch.

Instead of the Personal Finance asks, he says the "lion's share" of The Questions Now was about safety in the workplace - How To get out of a grocery store worker, in close proximity to the customer, But .

"Service employees in the major industries are really says at the Coal Face ," Mr Fottrell. "The People are only in the confrontation with the bosses who don't understand the pandemic. "

So, what should You do if your workplace is unsafe?

"It is really difficult, But if You are an employer, You make decisions that endanger your health, You Can try to push back, as a group, Because there is safety in numbers," says Mrs Green.

"Depending on The Situation , it could also be something You Can report to The State authorities. "

', Should I have to pay my cleaner, Even if You Work ?'

A Question that struck Mr. Fottrell someone came, had, due to the social distancing, But asked me if They should keep paying You .

His advice? The pay would be a "decent gesture," if You could afford it. Because the service employees have been particularly hard-Hit by the outbreak, he also suggests People tip 5% More Than usual.

"I feel Like it's the lower-paid workers, the really the full force of this virus through their workplaces - if I go to the supermarket, I always say "Thank You for working today". "

'As I am working from home?'

has seen Another common theme Ms Green, is working on the remote - with-managers expect employees to Work round-the-clock, or while looking after Children .

"managers are all of a sudden the administration of each Remote, and some don't know how You micromanage, or do You want to multiple check-ins each day. I've heard of People , their Manager wanted them to stay to prove to You on video the whole day," that You have to Work , Mrs Green says.

For People with anxious-bosses, Ms has a Green that You offer, send information to the beginning of each day about what You are working with, and try to explain that to several check-in meetings Every Day could actually make You less productive.

Meanwhile , she says the managers that it will be in your own interest, Now supportive and understanding of employees may be less productive than usual. "The People have a good memory. If You see, You make life more difficult for your employees - You Can 't leave immediately, But You will eventually. "

'How Can I date during the outbreak?'

relationship advice columnists have also seen a drastic change.

Harris O'malley leads the Dr nerd love Column , which he describes as a "dating advice to geeks of all stripes".

Previously, many of The Questions were from readers who had the feeling of being unattractive or socially awkward. Thanks to social distancing, these are questions no longer apply, in part, he believes, Because "many of my listeners feel more secure When communicating via text or internet than In Person ".

Instead, the outbreak has "changed the mechanics" of dating - and Now he has a date to coach People on How To good online.

"I have to say to the People , about How To keep a connection on a more spiritual or emotional Level - and how relationships are alive, if You fall back on the easy outs.

"not to meet If You are able to In Person , You Can 't say 'we have this casual relationship and see if it goes Anywhere " - the People are Now , You will have to approach relationships with consideration, care and attention. "

'What if I do not meet my Sex partner?'

Dan Savage , who leads the popular Savage Love Column and podcast says that about 80% of the requests, the relatives he Now gets coronavirus-and-the-outbreak, forced him to change his advice was exploded questions as "the very premise of a lot of Sex and dating", due to the outbreak.

so Far, he has been often for non-monogamous and open relationships. Now , he finds himself with a Partner You Live With to observe social distance.

He will also ask about "sexting".

"It's funny, how this crisis of established online-Sex - is itself a government Department of health is Now to tell the People ," he says.

'is no longer What if I Can 't stand my partner?'

in Addition, online Sex , Dan Savage says, that many readers "will find, is forced to spend every moment with your partner cracks are exposed to in their relationship".

It is important for couples to "carve out " alone time", Even if You are under the same roof, he says. "We interpret someone want 'alone time' as a rejection, But studies apart, show that is a predictor for the long-term success in a couple of The Ability to spend time. "

Some of The Most remarkable questions that he received, came from just before the shelter-in-place, and A Woman told Her Husband , directly in front of the block.

In those cases, he has suggested that readers remain, where possible, and "recognition of clumsiness".

In the case of The Woman who wanted to leave Her Husband , he suggested, signaling some flexibility, the life today - When your mind's made up - to make their temporary situation more bearable for both of You .

'What if I'm single and feel lonely?'

All of The Relationship advice we have talked about columnists, said They have received more questions, and feel especially lonely Now .

Mr O'malley says clients "who are lonely and want to date" I asked him, if You flirt with People You see in public. "I have to say to You : no, You Can 't really - it's a bit irresponsible to do so Now . "

Ms Cole has a lot of what she describes - from the teenager that started Like any other, communicating on Snapchat, But are not able, in the school and get to know each other.

"normally by Now would be [meeting] in each other. Now all You have is Social Media ," she says. Your Advice? To try to do things the old-school way, to speak of "literally on The Phone ", Because "in longer conversations will help You to learn to know each other better".

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Source of news: bbc.com