The Room

Since the lockdown, many people spend more Time on your own. Should you be worried if you end up in the Chat, the only person in The Room ? Sue Elliott-Nicholls, does not think.

"talk to me," complained a friend who lives on your own.

"What, you mean that you don't already?" I asked her. "Who Are you with and discuss your problems, work you, who comes Christmas to decide whether or not your butt looks in these jeans?"

Maybe it is because I work a good bit At Home , but I Love A good chat with me. Only lately I have found myself to do it Out -of-doors, when I go for my social-detached shop.

" My conversations Are pretty mundane, boring even.

I: "do you think we need more bananas?"

Me again: "Well, it wouldn't hurt, someone will eat you up. "

I: "Right, the bananas never last long with our much. "

I: "But then you will only be eaten as an end in itself. We Are not to Forget on a budget. "

Me: "a Good point is we let you, then?"

determined to Me (): "Yeah, we'll let you. "

I do not know all say it Out loud. Most of it is in my head, but some of the bits slip Out , in a kind of guided parent - until I realize what I'm doing, and look sharp to check no one heard. Then I cover it with a low melodic hum, in the hope, it looks Like this is what I did all the Time .

I Hear my husband sometimes, muttering down the stairs. I don't listen, it is private. (And he can be very moaning will probably be about me. )

My old mother used to say that The Best thing was to talk about yourself, that you knew, you would have a decent answer. But then She also said, it was The First sign of madness.

it Is? I would beg to differ. I often think of my little chats that help me to maintain my mental health.

in Front of the coronavirus lockdown Georgia Maskery not talking to himself, but now it is becoming your own motivational coach, gives himself pep talks.

"I always start with 'Georgia ', because it is then Like Someone Else is talking to me," She says.

"I need to motivate myself to do everything I need to motivate myself to put on pants in The Morning ! Although This Morning I wanted to go for a run, but I talked to me. "Right, Georgia , Are you going?' I began. Then I'm Like , 'Yeah, Yeah, I'm gonna go", although by This Time I was already Butter on my pretzel. "

Then it was, Like this, said to me:

look Georgia . Are you going to go?

" Yes.

Are you sure?

no, no, I'm not sure, because actually what I think I'm going to have to do, the Breakfast is The First , because it is a Sunny midday.

"I if it is not also think that it makes you feel Like you have a Crowded House , it's just The Voices in your head," says Georgia . "It has, in fact, the new normal, this is really crazy. I miss my buddies, I can talk to you on the Zoom, but to me the conversation in Real Life is missing, so I have to be on My Own mate. "

Welcome To My world of Georgia , it is a wonderful place. It is not, Sue ?

When I work I'm on My Own , I'll Like my colleagues - we Are a Partner really. Sue is invaluable when we work together, we propose ideas, discuss How To use the word difficult, E-Mails, sometimes we have a little gossip at the water cooler (Kitchen Sink ), and it is beautiful, because She 's coming with me later also helps me to decide what to wear. God, I love Sue .

Frankie has been friend to be your own new best. Before the suspension, to speak only used to, even if She was upset, or stupid decisions.

"I think it is Like my Guardian Angel , if it says to the guys," Frankie. "If he is, I will not behave in The Best way in the toilet, say: 'Oh, come on, buddy, you don't know, he's good!'"

But even to speak in these situations is not accepted as a type, is it? You do it in the movies, sweet and crazy (but healthy) characters to do it. It is, if you start mumbling to themselves about the daily goings-on that it feels a little strange.

And because social isolation Frankie, starved, your friends and your job, has begun to do this, if She puts her make-up in The Morning . "I'm just a bit brown, this is my mascara, And Then I line my lips with this lip liner, I'm going to. these two points here and here, And Then I wipe it, here, and here," you mother is

"And Then I'm Like -" WHAT am I DOING?' You do not realize you do it, and I think the more She is in the habit, the harder it is to break. "

Frankie's worried about turning into her mom, who is talking to himself.

"I can see your zoning And Then She begins to speak," She says. "I realize that what is expected of me. "

the lockdown has dragged on, Georgia has also begun, on their own nerves.

"I don't know how my pep talks sometimes," She says.

So, of course, She 's talking to herself about him.

"no, you're annoying, because I want to wallow lazy and now, you feel make me me Like I'm not good enough", says you.

Georgia is sitting with her hand to her head and Her Eyes pulled together as She tells me over FaceTime, creeping on yourself.

"only when I was getting Out of The House , my inner monologue was Still Going , but it would not slip Away - whereas now, that barrier is gone," She says.

Georgia and Frankie Are rather new to the concept of talking to yourself, but you can ask any freelancer who spends a lot of Time working alone At Home , and they will tell you, you Are the old-timers.

Kate Walsh has spoken, so long as She can remember.

"I can be lonely a bit, so I try to be a friend to be there for me," She says.

Sometimes, She even makes a melody. "The spring onion, the spring onion, I don't Like you, but Shaz has, Shaz." You will be singing.

I suspect, Most People , which is always worked At Home recognize that immediately.

can think"Sometimes I'm not sure when it happened, inside or outside of my head," says Kate.

"Because you spend so much Time on your own, your inner dialogue becomes external, so that one could say, in a shop:" Why do you have marigold flowers in the small?' That kind of thing, little comments, that's fine, if you Are in your Living Room , but not if you Are in Londis interview with the cling film. "

Kate thinks of talking to himself, is a really good possibility of Getting Through Hard Times . You found it a useful coping strategy when, a few years ago, after a traffic accident and a MRSA infection, She had to spend three months in a hospital room by yourself.

"I wouldn't happen is say aloud:" this, This is so Bad . "And to hear these words helped me. If you speak loudly, you will hear The Words , while, if it stays in your head, you hear it not so good. If It Comes Out of my mouth, it is more tangible in my head. "

And now we Are stuck inside, we could all with a bit of reassurance.

"It's a subtle pervading atmosphere of tension around The Moment ," says Kate. "People have To Let of steam, it is a legitimate way of' the exorcism of Stress . "

I agree. It definitely helps.

" My adviser once told me to speak To My inner child, and it was good, until my mother died and My Friends told me I should talk to her. I finally spoke with two of them - and me.

There is much talk about how aspects of social distancing, life will improve in The Future . We can learn from this is to know that our children Are better met previously unknown neighbors on WhatsApp groups, and you will be fitter daily us runs.

I think this could also be opportunity the perfect, to come, to boldly chat to us even do not care who can hear us and what you might think. I think this is a great idea. In fact, I'm going to tea in a Cup and they Are now discussing with Sue .

The post referred to here, as Frankie, the talk is still embarrassing, about-to-be to ask themselves, given a pseudonym.

It has become normal for adult children for years At Home even after the beginning of the work, because the mismatch between salaries and rent. Sue Elliott-Nicholls and her son, Morgan, agree that it can be A Nightmare .

Source of news: bbc.com