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To spend families need to adapt a lot more time together

We must never forget, the coronavirus is from the Lockdown . But we are still talking to each other, in The End ?

Because apart from the worry about The Virus , it probably have to the rising tensions in some families To Live on a different home.

In ordinary times, couples spend on average two-and-a-half hours together each day, the researcher in relations Prof Jacqui Gabb from The Open University.

But that was in the BC era (before coronavirus), and now we can spend 15 or 16 of our waking hours And throw in the combustible mixture, The Children are out of school.

Exercise is recommended, as a way of reducing stress levels

it is with irritability or bring us closer than ever? comes to us simmers,

"We have never experienced something Like this," Says Prof Gabb.

Most of the usual emotional pressure-cooker points - how cooped up together for Christmas or go on a vacation with The Family - have a clearly defined exit points.

Everyone seems to have found a dog to walk

But not with the coronavirus Lockdown .

"There are no certainties any more," she Says .

But there are All the ingredients for stress on relationships, she Says .

There are worries about jobs and money, not enough personal space, lack of childcare, not able to do the things you enjoy, to see friends and the fears caused by The Virus outbreak.

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"I'm a single mother, who is a competent point of contact (key worker. Can I find from home to work, but impossible with my six-and 10-year-old home. Work have said I can hours my drop, but lose the numbers, I can't afford. My son has the immune difficulties, so can't send to school, and we Live With my 84-year-old mother. The feeling of being really stuck!" Shelley-Ann on workingmums. co. to feel uk

"lack of freedoms will be different," Says Dr Caroline Schuster, a psychologist who worked with families in Dorset and Wiltshire.

she Says , people might feel a "lack of privacy, boredom and isolation, even in A Family ".

"For All of us, children included, there is a loss of The Old way of life. "

Both experts are concerned about an increase in Domestic Violence from the Lockdown . Figures from The National Domestic Abuse helpline since the Lockdown began.

We have also entered a strange new digital existence, with many working and socialising online.

But the Prof Gabb warns that self-broadcasting on Social Media during the lockout can even more psychological pressure on families. In particular, when complacency levels are too high.

"Not everyone is home in their huge kitchen. Other People are struggling to feed their children and go stir-crazy," she Says .

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"My parents are so annoying. I'll come down and say, 'Good morning' and they will reply, 'Good AFTERNOON'. It's Like , OK, I'm a bum, I get it. "From "annoying parents" on Twitter.

the history of The Lockdown is that it is seen through The Eyes of the possession, but as the have-nots, Says Prof Gabb.

"It is not so easy, as you just put on an Exercise video, and binding to each other," she Says .

her concern is echoed by the research of Save The Children , with The Charity to find the greatest worries of parents in Lockdown are, get enough to eat, help children with school work and money worries.

children are concerned about someone in your Family is sick, food shortages, and not to see friends.

The Loss of control over much of our everyday life, fuelling political tensions. For adults used to be independent, "is it sing pretty infantili," Says Prof Gabb.

"A sense of control is incredibly important for the people," Says Dr. Punit Shah, a psychologist at the University of Bath .

Family vacation might be tense, but we know, when you go to The End of

When we feel that we have no control, we feel stressed to us and he Says there are All types of "coping mechanisms".

people, maybe you take a sudden interest in movement, or focus on cleaning your house or working on The Garden , give them a sense of control over something.

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"It is Absolutely Not possible to facilitate distance learning with a primary-aged child and work from home at the same time. The idea is nonsense. If you try to do that, stop now. You can certainly activities in which your child learns, but her focus is her job, and survival. Stop trying to be super heroes. "Joseph Hellett parents in Hastings.

But Dr. Shah Says , we should. be more optimistic about what can emerge from this full-inclusion of stretch and "give us more credit", we Like the customization

It could be to get an "identity shift" within the families, parents and children, to learn to know each other better, Says psychologist.

"We should not assume it will be negative and problematic," he Says .

How are the generations together, you get during a Lockdown ?

Dr. Shah Says , we are still here, in this experience, what helps us feel better.

It could be a case of fear and clothing in Lockdown .

Says Because in his case, Dr. Shah, he feels more comfortable, to wear smart work clothes when he works from home, even if it surprises, All the others on the video conference.

One of The Most visible tactics for stress-busting, The Family pet seems to be. If you go outside, everyone seems to be Jogging, walking a dog.

"There are really positive benefits," Says Prof Gabb. Pets are particularly important for people who are not recognized on their own, a group that is thinking them sufficient, the during the lockout.

All the energy is now in Lockdown inside the house

Walking a dog can also people feel justified, outdoor and Dr Shah Says that our behavior is strongly influenced by the "social pressure".

This includes the parents to feel guilty about not turned overnight into an accomplished teacher for your stay-at-home children.

But there are reassuring words for All of you that are already suffering laptop-neck-and-Zoom-in pain.

An elementary school principal in Hastings a message to the parents not to say "are sent to stress or feel guilty" in these strange weeks.

"Stop trying to be super heroes," he told them.

family, relationships, coronavirus lockdown measures, psychology

Source of news: bbc.com