Her Story

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Grace Millane, from Wickford in Essex, was on a backpacking trip when she was killed

grace Millane was strangled by her killer in his Auckland hotel room after tinder date It was the 1. December 2018 The Day before what would have been your 22. Birthday.

the next day, while the backpacker ' s body, and stuffed her in a suitcase, The Man cannot be named for legal Reasons - took to the dating app.

The Woman , whom he met in Auckland, the bar has chosen to have Her Story in The Hope that, by doing so, you can help them warn others about dating safety. Here, in her own words, she describes the time she spent with Ms Millane's killer.

"He was really persistent,'

We talked for Two Weeks before we met, The Conversation was very light, quite funny.

He's an Australian so we were talking about the Aussie stuff. He seemed like a nice, normal guy-and when we agreed to meet, I was happy to do that.

But then, maybe Five Days before, that he really is persistent. He would me. an SMS several times A Day and if I don't reply he would ask if something was wrong

He stopped to try to set the date forward and forget I'd told him I was busy.

It was unusual for someone who is persistent. I had the guys who are perhaps a bit stubborn, but of nervousness - a different kind of excited.

It was only unusual in that he could not wait until Sunday. It table felt very narcissistic.

"He had been seen on weight,' Ms Millane and her killer at different locations in the City Centre of Auckland

He messaged me at around 09:00 (The Morning after Ms Millane murder) is says: "good morning, how are you?", and again at 10:30. He said it was fine when I was not in the mood for the date, and when I messaged and said I would meet him.

We went to celebrate. It is a very standard bar, very popular, a lot of people go there. More of a night bar - I never drank it, during the afternoon or day, but it is open and he wanted to go there.

He was taller than his photos showed; apparently, he had put on weight. He had large prominent eyes, and he was very, very clean. His clothes looked clean and he was well cared for.

I asked him a lot of questions, and he talked kind. He tried to ask me a few questions, but they were not very in-depth questions. I thought he was nervous.

I think, because he had said one thing in the news about where he worked, and to feel another thing, The Day I began a bit uncomfortable.

"murder was discovered, was in his mind' The backpacker ' s body, in the Bush country outside of Auckland

Because he was from Australia, I asked him where he met his friends and he said all his friends were police officers He met her in bars and she had invited him back to crickets. He said his Best Friend was coming over a Crown Court , Prosecutor's office, so that he had a way of this theme.

I believe, think it was definitely on his mind, and I, he was in a strange sort of way, trying to process what had happened, what he had done with me. It was a very strange insight into what one's brain does, after you Do Something like that.

of course He had thought about it, police officers, facilities, opportunities, people can be killed, the law enforcement, the judiciary and the court system, and it just came in a very strange way.

'It's crazy how a guy can make mistakes,' The Killer ' s identity is suppressed under New Zealand law,

We talked about him, as friends with many police officers. He said they were having a hard time, because the body is lacking in the Waitākere Ranges (where Ms Millane's body was later found). Police dogs can smell, four feet deep, so that, if they are buried deeper than the one that you can't find.

I thought it was a bit weird, but an interesting fact.

We have to talk about poisonous snakes in Australia, and he was quite animated About That . It was all the way out.

Then he told me, the really bizarre story.

He said: "It's crazy how a guy can make a mistake and go to jail for the rest of his Life . "

He told me about a guy he knew in Australia, had consensual rough sex with strangulation with his girlfriend, but to kill at the end by mistake.

It was an accident, it all went wrong and he was very upset by that, because he loved them, but the guy has done for manslaughter and was sent down for a long time.

we know now, this would have given him the test of his history to me.

He could see I was a bit uncomfortable and tried to talk about rather mundane things. I don't have a swift exit, I Am quite used to dealing with all sorts of people, but it was definitely weird.

'My instincts kicked" grace Millane was killed, the Life of The City -hotel in the centre of Auckland

Before we parted, he said: "my car is this way". My car was down the same street, but felt this time I'm uncomfortable and my instinct had just kicked away in me to walk another.

He wasn't much taller than me, so if something went wrong, I knew I would be able to defend myself.

In hindsight, it was a good decision. It is my intuition, feeling, my brain was saying "it was strange, that was weird".

It is really strange to think in retrospect [grace dead in his room]. I do not believe that it is in the range of what can enter the normal human mind.

It's hard to look back and think that just happened with her. There is nothing, what could I have done, and I know that now, but it's really hard to that.

'has It me go a little slower" In The Hours before she disappeared, Ms Millane and the defendant were think seen in the Sky City development

I, if it was a date in the evening, may I have a victim. I take much comfort in the fact that I have my wits about me and take you seriously for safety in online dating completely.

And this is nothing against a woman that is ready to Go Home with someone on the First Date .

I just want to say: the Young Women a step further in your thinking, if you see on a date, how well do you know this person.

Since then, I've thought on dates with beautiful, trust men trusted, but: "how well do I really know, you know"? It has to go a little slower, the disclosure of less information.

I know, in the modern dating it is quite common to give people, your Instagram handle, but you give people access to a lot of personal information.

It's really dangerous and I just want to encourage people to take a step back. There is nothing wrong with taking a step, take it slowly and pacing yourself a bit.

alcohol has a big effect, it is part of The Social fabric of dating and part of Life these days, but it still comes with massive risk. Women really need to drink aware how much you out on dates, and unfortunately, the drinks are sometimes Spikes.

The University of Lincoln graduate, was on a round-the-world trip in the time of the death

We live in a world where people are still idealistic about how things should be, out on dates, but incidents like this take things in 10, 20 years ago, where women still grip your keys between your fingers, or can't leave a drink on the table.

We are not as developed as we think we are in areas such as dating. Technology has in front of us. I think people are, as they always are.

I think that with the advancement of technology, we thought we would become more refined, but we are just the same, but with new technology.

I think the invention of dating apps is a wonderful thing, and I don't want To Live in a world without that, but I just wish for a world where women don ' T have all the time about their safety.

As I said, Doug Faulkner

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Source of news: bbc.com