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demonstrates When Natasha and her husband had trouble finding a child, the doctors gave her two pieces of Bad News . The First was that you need to find a donor egg. The second was that Afro-Caribbean Eggs will be donated to rare. But she never gave up hope.

Natasha is 38 and has difficulties to have a baby.

she married in 2011, and to grasp to try started immediately. It was finally clear, it was a Problem .

"I had were actually four rounds of IVF treatment and, obviously, none of them successful. And after the third round, The Doctor said, 'We doubt that your balls are going to be really good, and you might want to consider, go in the oocyte of the route. "And she raised her literally from her seat and said, 'I ll give you to discuss some time with her husband,' and she walked out of The Room . And that was it. "

Natasha s next step was to call the organizations that could help you to get a donor egg. One of them was a donation from the bank.

"you have basically said, 'We're going to have to be honest with you, but we don't have many black African come to The Caribbean to egg donors to the front. "You just told me, and I appreciated the honesty, rather than to be sent on a goose chase. "

Natasha then she threw her net in the distance. A clinic in Spain offered her an egg donated by an African. Many may think this was not a bad solution, but Natasha was not sure it would be right for you.

"My heritage is Caribbean. My grandparents on both sides of The Family are both from The Caribbean ... it was important to me, at least some cultural connection with The Child , and I felt that, if it is of another heritage, I can't..."

she also felt that her family, but she says, "has a big hang-up about who looks like who", perhaps, discriminate against, a kid that did you know that they come from a donor.

In the year 2017, approximately 1,900 donor Eggs donated in the UK. Of these, only 15 were all categorized as "Black Caribbean". Twenty were black Africans. The vast majority - 1,608 - White goods.

As The Black Caribs 1. 1% of the population according to the census of 2011, it is expected that 21 of the approximately 1,900 donors, come from this group. Black Africans, in the meantime, set to 1. 8%, so if 2017 had the donor Eggs were evenly distributed by race, it would have 34.

Dr. Edmond Edi-Osagie, a reproductive medicine says medical specialist in Cheshire, that there is "something cultural within The Black community", which makes women reluctant to donate Eggs .

"Every time I go to a Afro-Caribbean women over the age of 35 years, through my clinic, The First thing I think about is, 'Are you going to need to use donor Eggs ?' My heart sinks because I know that it is a very difficult battle when you are," he says.

He also finds that Afro-Caribbean women are more likely to need donor Eggs , as white women of a similar age.

"the reasons for Which we are still not very clear about it, and there are many plausible reasons, but this is what we can find are anecdotal. "

Edi-Osagie was to speak to A Number of black organizations and black churches, the shortage of donor Eggs and The Message always goes to the bottom, he says.

"do I get to wait in a line of People to talk to me, give me your contact details And Then I get my staff to try in the course of The Following weeks, to all these People - and, unfortunately, almost always, that's where The Trail ends," he says.

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Natasha thinks that there is a reason, why so donated a few Eggs that the women know that there is a shortage.

"There is no consciousness, no one printed any brochures - it is not sitting in the waiting room of any hospitals," she says.

she also thinks that it is a taboo topic that is rarely discussed in The Black community.

If the topic is ever mentioned, it's up The Road was an incidental remark, such as, "Sandra, you can not have a baby," Natasha.

"It's never taken seriously about how the person must be feeling or what kind of support you need. It is not simply a topic that is always addressed, and Yes, it does change, it really works," she says. "Especially because women, no matter what cultural background, have children later. So I know I'm not the only person who has gone through this. "

Natasha is known, she has not told her own family about their problems with fertility.

In fact, you don't even think that her husband is aware of how great your.

"He is a very practical person... all on My Own . "

she says she has to wear "a mask", so that People see how she feels, if something, what you have said, the power of your emotions almost brim over.

This is a surprise consulting a psychotherapist Helen George , who has heard in the course of their research into why older African-Caribbean women, addiction, rarely therapy, many will say, "you speak, don' T you take Your Business to the People . "

she's eager to encourage them to speak to The Black community to discuss more about infertility, but also the promotion of the health of infertility in a broader way.

"I feel that if we gives us the entire landscape, of the infertility and the services, you do not know it, represent us," she says.

she had noticed an online event in London called fertility, which describes itself as "The World 's first arts festival dedicated to fertility, infertility, the science of making babies and modern families", and found yourself thinking, "it is a kind of all white People ".

part of delivery But in 2019 there will be a meeting, which took on race, religion, and reproduction, and you.

"The taboo, the stigma to not talk about it in communities, that all came," she says. "Religion was not yet one... of the religion concerning God is angry, angry at what they want. "

But you came away with The Feeling that The Conversation had begun. "It was a room full of People , the talk of color. People find their voice now. "

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When Elaine Chong found out that there is a lack of women of color to donate Eggs , she decided to Do Something about it.

Natasha is on a waiting list for an Afro-Caribbean egg donor. You don't know how long you have to wait. "I have to go build my inner strength, to be able to move forward with this again," she says. "I know my age is against me. "

she also wants to start the awareness for this Problem in your community, in The Hope that this will encourage more women to donate Eggs - not only for their benefit, but for The General welfare.

It frustrated, to warn that the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority, which is known to be the lack of certain Eggs did not try The Public on this fact. The HFEA points out that it is a regulator and that this role does not fall within its regulatory Charter.

And she says that more could be done to show the women that, although the donation of an egg is not a simple process - it comes in A Number of medical tests, and you will have to inject herself with hormones twice A Day - be donors are compensated with a single payment of £750.

"I feel that I need to knock in order to start The Ball rolling, and perhaps by the voice, at the door, and actually steering this conversation more and makes People more aware that this is a Problem - because I'm sure that Most People would not even consider that this Problem Exists at all. "

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