Fresh Air

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in The Past year Rose Kalemba wrote a blog post that explains how hard it had been When she was raped as a 14-year-old Girl - a video of The Attack removed from a popular porn site. Dozens of people then turned to her to say that she is facing the same problem today.

The Nurse stopped at the door leading from Rose 's hospital room and turned to face her.

"I'm sorry this happened to You ," She Said , her voice shaking. "My Daughter was raped also. "

Rose looked up at The Nurse . You could not thought to be older than 40, Rose , your daughter must be young, Like Me .

she thought back to The Morning after The Attack , the talks with the emotionless Police Officer and the clinical doctor. Each had the word "allegedly" When It Comes to the violent, attack, hours-long night, Rose had described to them. With The Exception of her father and her grandmother, Most of her relatives do not believe her had either.

With The Nurse , it was different.

"You believed me," Rose says.

There is a small crack of Hope was someone to acknowledge what had happened to her. A wave of relief washed over You that felt like it could be the beginning of your recovery.

But would soon see hundreds of thousands of people, The Rape for themselves, and of which the spectators, she received no sympathy.

A decade later, Rose Kalemba brushes her thick thigh-length black hair at the mirror in The Bathroom , turned up the ends with your fingers to form natural curls. This would not have been the case in the months after The Attack - All the mirrors had to be in your home, covered with blankets, she could not bear it, to catch her reflection in the mirror.

she is now 25 and she has organized routines of self-care in your daily life.

taking care of your hair. Combing it takes time and effort, it is almost an act of meditation. She knows that she has beautiful hair, people comment All the time. Every morning makes it self-a Cup of cocoa, a pure, raw form of chocolate, that she believes has healing properties, and write your goals in a diary.

deliberately puts You in The Present .

"I'm an excellent driver" is a goal. "I'm happily married with Robert," is different. "I'm a great mother. "

to Sit, talk, and Rose pulls her hair over her Shoulders - it covers Most of your body, your own arms.

grew up in a Small Town in Ohio, it was unusual for Rose to go for a walk alone in front of the sleep. It cleared her head, she enjoyed the Fresh Air and tranquility. So this evening, in the summer of 2009 began like Most for the 14-year-old Rose .

Rose , as a little kid, with toys and books, But then A Man from The Shadows appeared. At knifepoint, he forced her into a car. On the front passenger seat, a second man was sitting, at the age of 19 - she had seen him in the city. They drove her to A House on The Other side of the city and raped her over a period of 12 hours, while a third man filmed parts of The Attack .

Rose was in shock - she could hardly breathe. She was severely beaten and stabbed bloody in her left leg, her clothes. She fell in and out of consciousness.

At some point, one of The Men got out a laptop and showed it to Rose , videos of attacks on other women. "I Am of first nations ethnicity," she says. "The attackers were white, and The Power structure was clear. Some of The Victims were white, but many women of color. "

Later, The Men threatened to kill them. Forcing himself to gather his senses, Rose began to speak to them. When You released her You did not reveal your identity, She Said . Nothing would ever happen to You , nobody would know.

Take it back in The Car , men threw in a road about a half-hour walk from your home.

fell to the feet through the door, her gaze on her reflection in the hall mirror. A gaping wound in her head oozed blood.

her father, Ron , and some extended family were eating in The Living room for lunch. Still bleeding from her stab wound, she explained what had happened.

"My father called The Police , he comforted me immediately, but The Others said, I had asked You to says for You to walk late in the night," Rose .

In The Hospital , Rose was greeted by male doctors and male police officers.

"You treated me in a very businesslike Way ," she adds, "It was no kindness, no warmth. "

The male COP asked her if she had started as a friendly. It was a night gone wild, he wondered.

Rose was taken aback.

"Here, I was beaten up beyond recognition. Stabbed and bleeding. "

Rose said to them, no, it was consensual. And still not recovered from what she had been through, She Said she knew who had attacked. The Police had no go leads to.

When Rose , was published the next day, she tried suicide, imagine how a normal life could be living now. Her brother found her In Time .

A few months later, Rose was surfing on MySpace, if You want to share some people from your school link. She was marked. Click on Rose to the pornography-sharing Website Pornhub. She felt a wave of nausea as she saw several videos of The Attack on her.

"title of the video were crying teen and get hit', 'teen always destroyed', 'passed out teen'. You had told about 400.000 views," Rose .

"worst videos were those where I was passed out. Since I have been attacked myself, where I wasn't even aware of the worst of it was. "

an instant decision is not made to tell your family about The Videos - Most of them do not support anyway. Say, You would achieve nothing.

Within a few days it was obvious that Most of your peers had seen in the school, The Videos .

"I was being bullied," she says, "people would say that I have asked. I led The Men . I was a bitch. "

Some of the boys said that their parents had told them, away from her, in case she is seduced And Then accused You of rape.

"people, the debt, it is easier for The Victim ," she says.

Rose says, You are like by E-Mail Pornhub several times over a period of six months in 2009, questions for The Videos .

"I sent Pornhub begging E-Mails. I begged You . I wrote: "Please, I'm a Minor , this was assault, please take it down. '"

she received no answer and The Videos remained live.

"The year that followed, I pulled back into myself. I distant," she recalls, "I felt nothing. Deaf. I thought to myself. "

You 'd be surprised with any stranger, made Eye Contact with her, if You had seen The Videos .

"Had You had it? Were You masturbating To My rape?"

she could not bear to look at yourself. This is why You covered the mirrors with blankets. You would brush your teeth and wash in The Dark , over thinking All the time who watch The Videos .

Then she had an idea.

Set Up a new E-Mail address, as a lawyer, and sent Pornhub a E-Mail, threatening legal action.

"Within 48 Hours , The Videos disappeared. "

months later, Rose , a consultation was launched, finally, the identity of their attacker to be a psychologist, which was duty-bound reveals, report this to The Police . But You don't tell your family or The Police about The Videos .

The Police collected victim impact statements from Rose and her family. The attackers' lawyers argued that Rose had consented to sex, and The Men were charged that year with rape, but "contributions to the delinquency of a Minor " - a petty crime and received a suspended sentence.

Rose and her family have not the energy or the resources to fight for a tougher punishment.

It is clear that Ron Kalemba, thinks a lot about what happened to his daughter All those years ago. What would he have done differently if he had known, he wonders. His daughter changed after The Attack . You went from being a straight-A student, classes are missing, rarely handing in your homework.

We are sitting in a park in the vicinity of his home, that Ron visits often. He and Rose passages read together from The Bible , from a picnic bench. You don't talk much about The Past .

"It feels like the whole world is left in the lurch," he says. "Your abuse was, how it was a joke for everyone. It changed her life completely, and people will let You down every step of the Way . "

Ron Kalemba: Rose had a "digital amount of the tyrants", Ron heard only on the Pornhub videos in 2019, When a blog Rose , went together about their abuse viral on Social Media . He had no idea that his daughter had seen The Rape of so many people, that the people in your school had mocked her for it.

"I knew a Girl in the Eighth Grade , as I was reminded in the school," Ron . "People harvest on her, and she would be beaten. And none of us would say, to leave everything, what we have just seen, it happen. "

Is that what he thinks happened to Rose ?

in the course of the next few years disappear, often in the digital world.

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Source of news: bbc.com