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schools prepare to open on Monday, the Children in years one and six, some Parents , Social Media feeds have become toxic. Kirstie Brewer speaks judged to be mothers or feel ashamed for your decision to send the Children Back To school - or to you At Home .

Marsha s WhatsApp group went Ping in high gear as soon as it was announced That primary schools and kindergartens would not open for some of the Children on 1. June.

There was outrage, relief, excitement, fear. Everyone seemed to have an opinion.

Marsha wrote That she would be happy to send her son Back To school. Then immediately another mom a message was shared about A Teacher who had tested positive for coronavirus.

"That 's why I'm going to Rosie's home safe with me - I'm not putting her life in danger," she wrote.

A couple of other Parents then sent a thumbs up and shocked-to show face emojis, with your consent, of Rosie's mother the message.

"It felt very passive-aggressive," says Marsha, Who Said she wanted her real name to be published because They could not endure "more drama".

The WhatsApp group to which it belongs, is for Parents with a child in The First year at a school in the area of Bristol and is usually a source of useful information. But because the pandemic will hit, it became toxic, she says.

"People have post a lot of screen grabs of Facebook, which is full of misinformation about how The Virus spreads and the risks to the Children ," she says.

"But if you try to correct something or put things in perspective, you will be shot down, and it is implied That you are a bad mother.

"I'm trying to hold down a full time job while also homeschooling Two Children - I find judged by other Parents on the upper side, which are very difficult to treat. "

Sophia, 25, had a similar experience, if you commented on a Facebook-group for single mothers, their four-year-old daughter would be in preschool.

she was branded "selfish" by another mom And Then she watched as the damning verdict of likes was confirmed by other members of The Group .

Normally, this would be a very positive, empowering community, says Sophia, who works full-time as a charity consultant, so it is A Sign of how much times have changed.

"It showed me how much she is in the lockdown People ," she says.

"It feels As If the worst assumptions someone made the reasons for your child to return to school or Kindergarten. "

Sophia's daughter has special educational needs, and for weeks now, it does not have access to your usual speech and language therapy.

"you learn a lot by being with other Children , so That in the preschool age is The Next best thing for you," she explains.

"I could be a doctor working in the Education of the Children , and it would still be better for you, to other Children . There is no substitute for it. "

Parents who have chosen not to have Children in the home escaped the cross-hairs either.

Harriet Shearsmith, founder of the parenting website, has an Instagram following of 116,000, and is one of The Few "mom bloggers" have publicly stated their position on this divisive question. They will not send their Children back, when the schools re-open in June, But if you explain this decision, she has not been careful to add the caveat That you criticize other Parents

"If you fall into The Group of People who wrote a choice different to me, or you just don't have no choice, this is a judgment or a dismissal of your situation," she said.

Harriet Shearsmith says That each parent is The Best judge of what is right for your child

Some, however, witheringly responded That Harriet care, apparently, even a lot of, the Education of the Children - But as an experienced blogger you used to in dealing with him.

"I have comments, you know," you will damage Your Children ,' or, 'You're just not very intelligent, and a terrible mother. 'This kind of thing, But I said largely you just ignore it," she says.

"Lockdown has all of us lose much faster our minds. We Are much frayed and We Are All In a very stressful positions, regardless of what could be these positions. "

Fellow blogger Alison Perry says she has also noticed the floor shift.

"It feels like all The Social "rules" have changed," she says. "Everyone feels quite differently about homeschooling and the time in front of the screen, and only the Interpretation of the government guidelines. I'm usually a very extroverted person, But have found, to bite my tongue, because whatever I say, someone will tell me I'm wrong or selfish. "

Liz, who lives in the vicinity of Cambridge, points to another possible explanation - People have more time for Social Media , so That each reinforced response.

As Marsha and Sophia, are you planning on sending one of their Children back in school on Monday.

"It is really difficult to know what is The Right decision, But we think That the advantages of our son goes Back To school outweighs The Risk for him to be sick," she says.

she was injured. by cautionary comments from other Parents on their Facebook group, some of whom she's known for several years

"send it back, Apparently, those of us who are ready to put Our Children in the school when They open again, send to rabbit it Back To 'attempt' or 'Canary Islands', to see if the cases will rise again," she says.

"I said I found it offensive. This means That anyone who like to send your child to school in the back throws you to The Wolves , so to speak, whereas, actually, we just want some normality for Our Children , and, you know, Education and socialization. "

If you have this item in response to a criticism on Facebook she says she has been accused, "bullying". to have

The Problem seems to be caused by a deep Gulf, she notes with regret. Now she has minimized her time on Social Media and advises other Parents in your position to do the same.

The Parents of Marsha, The Group have to send Your Children to school, a different approach - They have started avoiding the main-group chat and in conversation with each other instead.

Mumsnet founder and CEO Justine Roberts : "

some of the Parents on Mumsnet have made the decision to send your child Back To school to say That you have felt battered by the negative reactions of family or friends, which seem to be driven by worries about The Risk of inflammation.

Many People are highly doubtful That the youngest Children can really be prevented, the release of bugs and the implementation in the community, and many People have picked up on the teacher concerns whether the schools have enough time to prepare a really safe environment.

It seems likely That the responses of the People are driven by an understandable fear and uncertainty, But if you are a parent run ragged, and nine weeks of homeschooling, while you try to hold a job, Other People 's judgment is likely to be The Last thing you need.

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Source of news: bbc.com